In Relationships, We Mirror Each Other
Relationships can carry a lot. You may find yourselves having the same argument again, feeling more like roommates than partners, or sensing a distance that neither of you knows how to close. One person may shut down while the other pursues. Small moments of disconnection accumulate. Over time it can feel like you are losing each other, or that the connection you once had is harder and harder to find.
Couples therapy offers a space to slow down and understand what is happening between you. Together you can learn new ways of relating. My approach is experiential, attachment-based, and mindfulness-informed. I support each partner in looking honestly at how they contribute to the dynamic. We increase awareness of what happens in the moment and practice more connecting ways of relating.
How I Work
I draw from the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT), the Gottman Method, and Compassionate Communication. Together these approaches support partners in understanding their attachment patterns, emotional responses, and communication as they happen in real time. The goal is to build a more accurate understanding of each other and create new, more secure ways of connecting.
What to Expect from Couples Therapy
I offer couples therapy in Portland and throughout Oregon, in person and via telehealth. Sessions are 55 minutes. Weekly sessions are ideal when partners are in significant distress, but every other week can work depending on schedules and needs.
I work with all sexual orientations, gender identities, and relationship structures. My goal is to create a space where both partners feel respected, safe, and able to speak honestly. Couples therapy works best when both people are willing to look honestly at their own part in the dynamic. That willingness, more than any particular method, is what makes the work possible.
If you are ready to talk, I welcome you to schedule a free consultation or reach out through my contact page.
